Life Inventory

These days it's all about showing up the next person. People are rarely doing things out of love, it's more out of being better than the next person. And then 10 years later, after every venture has failed, they begin wondering what their life's purpose is. If we take more time trying to figure out what we love, and not what we can do to get a quick dollar, then life would be much more easier.  But I guess failures are the ways that we learn. Without them, we wouldn't know how far we could go and get back up.

Back to the point of the matter... Who are you?  Do you even know? If you do, then great for you. You have made it to a point in your life that many are waiting to get to. Now that you have gotten there, can you tell the rest of us your secret? I am still trying to figure out what I should be doing next. And maybe this is not for me to figure out. Maybe I am just suppose to go through the motions until I have accomplished everything that is for me. It would definitely be nice if I knew who I was and what my purpose was, so that I can accomplish these things on a better level, but I don't, so I am here.

Finding who you are takes patience.  Everyone likes to get things done overnight and that is just not the case.To find yourself, you have to really do some life inventory. You need to get out a sheet of paper (or a notebook) and start writing. Write down the things that you have done and failed at; write down those things that you have failed, but are willing to try again; write down the things that you have done and would never do again; write down those things that makes you happy; and finally, write down the things that you can do without being asked, without needing to be paid and you feel good when doing them. This right here is who and what you are.

Those things that you have failed at, and willing to try again, is what keeps you going. This is your motivation in life. You will do it until you find what works for you. When doing these things, look for natural motivation, Don't look at what others are doing, because you have no idea about the struggle they are going through to get to where they are. The grass isn't always greener.

Those things that you can do effortlessly, is your gift and you should work on that daily. It doesn't take much to do these things, so go out and do them. Life can be easily wasted on trying to get back. Don't let this be your focus. Your goal in life should be pure joy. Joy lasts a lifetime and this is what we should all strive for. Take some time this week and do some life inventory. Make sure you leave room for change and don't be afraid of what you might see. If nothing else, it should encourage you to do better that you have before.

Until next time, Ciao!

I miss this...

I actually miss blogging. I started while I was working the night shift, at a Chicago hospital, and it was just from boredom. But now I see that I really miss it. This did not just hit me at this moment, but I have been thinking about this for a few months now. Lately, I have been helping out with a fellow entrepreneur, and now friend, and I feel like this is something that I can work into my schedule.  I have so much to talk about and it goes beyond natural hair in Chicago.  I'm so ready to talk to other bloggers and get more confidence in my writing abilities. So I hope that you are ready, because the stuff I have to tell you will knock your socks off. 

I think I will bog on Sundays and just follow up throughout the week.  I may even try to vlog (who said that?). LOL... What ever I do it will be fun.

Have a great week. 

Ciao!

Your dreams are HOW BIG???

Top and Blazer:  Thrift store (which I think was a dress, for a smaller lady, but I pinned it in the back).
Jeans:  NY & Co. (I folded them at the bottom)
Shoes: Local store here in Chicago
Hair: Micros

So I surprised myself and went out and had a nice time with the fam.  That spot on my top has to be Vaseline.  I can't be ashy in public (lol).

Okay now let's get into it.  Apparently I am on some kind of life journey and I do not know what to make of it.  Lately I have been trying to figure this out.  It seems that when I have an epiphany about a particular life issue, that it is confirmed in some way. 

Today I was listening to Oprah talk to Steve Harvey and I was thinking how awesome that was and someday I'll be on that level.  Soon after, I looked at the Bronze Goddes' latest video and sure enough things were confirmed. 

Sometimes we do put limits on God and ask for small things and work our way up to the big ones.  I will no longer do this.  I have things to accomplish and I know that He is the ruler of all those things to come.  I just hope that you do the same.  We only get one life and I can't waste it on fear of being successful.  Nope, not gone happen.  Get out and make it happen :)

Until next time... Ciao!

Walking in my Destiny

Oh gosh.  I am walking in my destiny and let me tell you it is not easy.  My advice to anyone under 30, would be to take advantage of school and just get it out the way.  Finding a balance between work, home and school is my biggest issue right now.  I will make it happen, because this is the last time I will enter school.  Although this is not the point of my post I think it is beneficial. 

I have always been a person who liked to help people.  My friend use to laugh when I told her that I wanted to be a person who knew everything and would be a go to person.  This may sound kind of weird, but I like to be in the know.  My issue is is that when I get in my "loner" mood, I rarely go out and network like I should. 

On Twitter over the weekend, I realized because of my "loner" episode, I actually missed a really great brunch here in Chicago and I was super upset.  I have got to stop this.  I have so many ideas and I never do anything with them.  I sometimes feel like I am just wasting my great talents.  An ideas in your mind is just a dream and I know this.  So what am I going to do?  Hmmm...

Well first off, after my natural hair meet-up passes, in April, I will focus more on having networking events with the people who I have been in contact with over the past year.  I will be known in Chicago and other cities as the "go to" girl. I know sometimes people say that your dreams are too big, but my God is bigger and with hard work and dedication, I will accomplish everything that I put my mind to.  I hope you do the same. 

Thanks for reading... CIAO!!

Worth the Weight?

Oh gosh.  This 21 day breakthrough is not going as expected.  Of course weight loss is something that you have to really focus on and push through., but I am having a fit of a time.

I had things planned last week, in regards to when I would exercise and what I would eat, but it seems that I just can't get on track.  The weird thing is, that although I feel I need a daily "reward", what I choose is not making me feel good and I can't event taste it like I want to.  So why continue to eat it right?

Good question.  Any habit is hard to break and I to have this addiction to snacks (no joke).  Although I am not eating any meat or food, besides my fruit and veggie smoothie (not as bad as it sounds),  I had some popcorn on the evening of day one, which was this past Tuesday, then I had some chocolate today and my stomach is killing me.  *sigh*

Spring is coming, here in Chicago, and I dislike having to be fully clothed, so I need to get focused on my grind.  I will post some before pictures and start some type of exercising.  I'll be back next week with a line up of things that I would like to do with this blog.  Since I am in school, I am really going to have to figure out posting details.

Until next time... Ciao!

21 Day Breakthrough

Okay so weight loss is one of those touchy topics, but I'm about to lay my hands all on it (lol).  Over the past few weeks I have lost weight, because of a detox that I did.  It was my third time doing the detox and this time was the best and I got inspired (and inspired more to follow).  Although I can not take credit for this detox (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wqNPr4lRvN4), I will take the credit for the change that I am going to incorporate. 

Studies show that it takes at least 21 days to break a habit and that's what I plan to do.  I have an addiction and like all addictions, it's a habit that is not easy to let go of.  I ABSOLUTELY love sweets and they are my downfall.  In one week I lost 8 pounds while drinking smoothies and eating salads.  I don't know if it was water weight or not, but I have gotten compliments from random people who have noticed (yaaayyy me). 

So I am changing the way she did things, to fit into what I can do and what people I know can do.  Trying to lose weight is hard enough.  Trying to lose weight, while on the strictest of diets, is failure waiting to happen.  So starting on Tuesday March 6th, I will start my 21 Day Breakthrough and show my progress (pictures and all), each week, during the 21 days.  I would love to have others join me on this journey.  So share this blog and I can send an email to those who want to join.  I may even have a raffle (tell your friends).

Remember, losing weight is personal to everyone.  As an African American, health is our number one concern.  We have the worst diet habits and even worse health issues, in our community.  So even if you like your size and are comfortable with your weight, there may be someone who needs inspiration and this will be the place for them to be. 

Let's do this. 

Ciao!!

We can't be friends!!!

I just got inspired by Try Songz (yeah I know).  But it is what it is.  I'm at work listening to music and We can't be friends just spoke to me.  After trying to keep in touch with exes and male friends from the past, I have realized that if there was suppose to be a friendshipk, then we would have had one by now. 

I know I'm not the only one who keeps in touch with the oldies (lol).  I think, as women, and this is my opinion, that we try to hold on to those who have gone out of our lives, because feel like they will see what they had and change their ways.  Keeping our fingers crossed when we speak to them just waiting for him to say "let try again".  Ha!  This is not the case ladies.  We have to let it go.  This includes myself.

I keep in contact with just about every guy I use to date or even know (sounds foolish right).  Now I'm not a pest, but I will check up on a brother every couple of months or so.  And these dudes are good.  One in particular always had me thinking, after we ended our call, that it was my fault that we didn't go further.  I mean talk about being highly upset.  LOL...  I had to check myself. 

This is where Trey Songz comes into play.  We can't be friends.  You know why?  For the most part, we have gone too far.  Not to mention, that men are suppose to be the hunter.  If they wanted to know what I was doing on the weekend they would call (but they don't).  People will make time for what they want and excuses for what they don't.  Ladies don't settle for being friends if what you want is a relationship.  Don't jump into a relationship if you have yet to become friends (you'll get this later).  Respect yourself first.  Until next time.

Ciao!